Here’s a quick communication technique you might find useful: be the last to speak at your next meeting. I don’t see this technique used very much in engineering conference rooms; in fact, I see the opposite every damn day!
What are some benefits?
- You might get the whole story without having influenced or biased a conversation.
- Opportunities or hooks to lead that you might have missed will reveal themselves.
- The people on the team will actually feel heard (if you’re actually listening and actually care not only about the message but where it’s coming from).
What are some drawbacks?
- It’s hard, especially for the alphas in the room or techs that want to jump in and solve a problem right away.
- When people are insecure about their own position or status in a meeting, they sometimes aren’t ready to hear or accept information.
- Sometimes people talk a lot — so you’ll have to inject eventually before the clock runs out!
- Have you heard of this technique?
- Whether you have or haven’t, do you find it challenging to listen to people before you want to jump in and assert your opinion?
- If so, describe some of the difficulties.
- Of those difficulties, do you feel like any of them are due to the fact that you don’t really want to listen — or that what you really want to do is assert your opinion?
Let me know! I’m curious!